By Emily Atkins

Healing after an emotional affair is not going to be easy. The trust you had with your husband would be difficult to restore. The images of your husband and his special friend together keep on haunting you. Also, the affair might be over but he is still not willing to share the details.

Then there are the questions. Is the affair really over? Is he going to do it again? Is our relationship going to get back the way it was? Ever since the affair happened your outlook in life has completely changed. You no longer see relationships and marriages like it was before.

But the good news is that you succeeded in the first step which is ending your husband’s emotional affair. That is a very big achievement and it only shows that your husband really cares for you.

Here are the most important things in healing after an emotional affair:

Do not confront him about the details immediately.

Although you want him to talk about everything that has happened, you should not rush it. This will only make him irate and delay the healing. After an emotional affair, men do not want to talk about the details especially when the tension is still high. This is very natural and you should not think that he is still hiding something from you. The important thing is that your husband’s emotional affair is over. Give him time and he will open up when he is ready.

Also, it is natural that you have not fully regained your husband’s trust but it is not advisable that you check on him all the time. This will make him feel suffocated.

Have open communication.

Communication is very crucial in healing after an emotional affair. Now that the lying has stopped, you should spend more quality time with each other. Constant communication is very important. This will make you rebuild trust and develop honesty on each other.

Make him promise to not do it again.

One of the biggest concerns for wives is that the affair will happen again. You deserve a sincere apology and should not be deceived again. By making him promise to not do it again, you will have a peace of mind and the haunting images inside your head will be erased. Make him reassure you that he will not contact his special friend again.

Counseling.

Most couples who have marriage problems resort to counseling right away. But healing after an emotional affair does not have to be expensive and troublesome. There are a lot of programs online that are very effective in dealing emotional affairs. What is important is that your husband must commit to healing.

Learn from what happened.

The most common reason why men engage in an affair is because their emotional needs are not met. Yes, it is not about physical attraction or other things. Learn to be more caring if you think that you have been a little insensitive before. Spend more time together by going on dates and doing the things you both love.

About the Author:

Emily Atkins

is a well-known writer and researcher about marriage problems. With the right approach and attitude, you can end your husband’s emotional affair and get him back. Visit

HEALING AFTER AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR

and download the 7-Part Survive an Affair course for free.

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